is on me.
So there’s nothing like time and distance to get over someone.
I excise the other from my life to move on.
It really helps.
I think I’ve got recovering from heartbreak down— yea!
I create emotional distance through physical distance.
I make sure our worlds don’t collide and my brain-heart is trained: the second I sniff voluntary distance (from me or the other), emotional detachment follows.
As usual, when I’m pretty confident that I can get through one emotional puzzle, the universe throws a giant hamster ball in my path.
I get a conundrum wrapped in the guise of a three-part love present.
1) I fall for someone.
2) I fall hard.
3) It’s. Long. Distance.
Of course it is.
I have trained my instincts so well that this situation is a mindfuck.
What— get close to someone when they’re countless miles and time zones away?
Are we really establishing a foundation over text?!
This sounds stupid and I shake my head at myself.
Except for the damn love, people.
And we meet so seldom that every time feels like the first time.
What am I doing?
Usually I fall in love and into a relationship like the oldest lesbian U-Haul joke we all know.
I need to learn how to pace myself in a relationship but I don’t know if this— the complete opposite— is the answer.
But it sure as hell is a lesson in a different kind of patience.
I tell myself to stay in the moment and relax when we meet even though my brain knows the moment has a very short lifespan. There are so many thoughts, stories, feelings of the mundane and extraordinary I want to share but when I’m confronted with T minus 150 minutes and counting— I am rendered mute because my heart beats in time to the tick-tick-tock of the countdown clock. And what are words when I can actually touch this person? Because we’ve been wording 6,000 times over for the past too many days.
I give in to the clock; I acknowledge but don’t begrudge its presence.
I experience the moment since this moment is what I have.
I am grateful.