I curse my attempt to breathe and get peaceful.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.
I tell her, “It’s this damn hope I have that’s starting to make me feel duped. I can’t change my current difficult, seemingly impossible situation but I don’t want to give up.”
Which reminds me of the man who flew halfway around the world to meet S.
They’re good friends. For a solid year they talk, Skype, text nearly everyday. I heard the tail end of a phone call about six months into their friendship.
“S, he likes you.”
Uh-oh she’s turning red.
“Um you’re turning red.”
“Shut up, Rumi!”
“You know he likes you.”
“He has a girlfriend. Besides, what makes you say that?”
“Because no guy stays on the phone for that long to be ‘nice’. He really likes you.”
“Do you like him? I mean, if he didn’t have a girlfriend would you consider going out with him?”
Yeah, he and his girlfriend broke up not too long after that conversation. And he and S became more than friends. Which brings me back to his flying out to Tokyo. I mean you have to meet in the real to see if it’s real, no?
I check out of the apartment while he’s in town because, as if I’m going to witness potential crazy-honeymoon-period-doing it (but I’ll gladly listen to her tell me the gory deets).
I meet up with them and it’s immediately clear that he’s really, really into her. I mean he can barely ask me a question because he’s so glued onto her. I’m pretty sure he thinks he loves her. So I look over at her and…S doesn’t have to say anything for me to know that something’s not right. Nothing is outright wrong but something’s off.
Two days later, she and I meet up to chat.
“I’m just not attracted to him. I think it’s pheromones.”
“Aww…I’m sorry, S. That sucks. He really likes you.”
“I know. I feel terrible. He’s so nice and he thinks I’m beautiful and awesome. But I just…can’t.”
“No, you sure as hell can’t. You can’t make that X-factor chemical attraction happen.”
And how’s this for fucked up:
Even though this really sweet guy is guilty of nothing but showing her love and affection, I’m protective of S to the point where I’m cursing this dude for making her feel so down. Yes, the sympathy unbalance is definitely fucked up.
My words echo between my ears:
“I can’t change the current difficult, seemingly impossible situation but I don’t want to give up.”
And I’m finally able to be sympathetic towards the poor dude who faces definitive, unrequited love…there’s no going back.
“You don’t want to give up…I guess that’s where the rest of the prayer comes in.”
“Oh crap, how’s the rest go? I forget ’cause I always get stuck on trying to accept the shit I can’t change.”
“You have to change what you can.”
“I can’t change the situation.”
“Maybe you have to take yourself out of the situation…?”
“Yeah… But that’s so fucking hard.”
“I think that’s why they say that ‘courage to change the things I can’t’ bit.”
“And then there’s the wisdom to know the difference…”