is a thing.
As well as a known acronym?
This one was introduced by way of a complete stranger to me but someone BF knew. We’re sitting, having drinks at a regular bar after hanging out for a few weeks. BF and dude are talking; I’m quasi-listening but mostly zombied to the TV screen (a glowing monitor entrances and renders me a deaf-mute) when I hear, “So…is she your girlfriend?”
Erm…awkward, long silence as he and I look at each other, eyes wide open question marks.
“Oh…right, y’all haven’t had the RDT yet. Hehe.”
Whatever that is, okay, guess not.
But on the way home, I remember the acronym comment and curious minds want to know.
Me: What does RTF or RTD or whatever dude said stand for?
BF: You mean RDT?”
Me: Um, sure.
BF: Relationship Defining Talk.
Me: Wow, people really call it that? I meant it’s a for real acronym?
BF: Yep, you’re probably the only person who doesn’t know what that stands for.
Me: Hmm….seriously? I’m skeptical. I feel that it’s not that I’m clueless in the dating realm but that my guy hangs out with some endearing but seriously geeky types. Also, he really likes acronyms. And lists. I’m pretty sure he makes shit up on the daily just to mess with me. Our text history is 80% ‘What does that meeeeean?’ from me and chronologized bullet points from him. Ok, so are we supposed to have that?
BF: I guess so. I mean I knew it’d be a talk we’d have soon but I didn’t intend it to be today.
Me: You can call me your girlfriend (insert smirky grin).
The truth is we both know we’re BF/GF. Since the first night he spent in my bed, we haven’t spent a night apart. But I do understand and agree with naming it, putting it out in the open where there’s a witness to the thought in our heads.
And It’s not real unless you share it.
The RDT is easy because what I’m pondering more is…I think I love him.